We caught up with Counselling Psychologist, Parul Johar on how to effectively deal with anger in kids and here are some easy techniques:
Watch out for the triggers: Anger is more often than not a response to certain triggers. Parents need to be on the lookout for these triggers which always irritate the child. If the situation is unavoidable, then figure out a strategy to tweak it in such a way that it doesn’t lead to conflict.
Control your own behavior in front of the child: Parental conflicts should not be visible in front of the kids. Kids often leverage the disharmony between parents to negotiate their own way. Be firm in your decision making and put up a united front if the child is throwing a tantrum.
Change the environment when the child is angry: For example, if the child wants to watch TV but you switch it off, divert the attention of the child by easy hacks like voice modulation or making clingy faces.
Make some rules: Toddlers don’t have sense of right and wrong. That’s why it’s important to make some norms. These should be house rules. Keep reinstating them. This also instils a sense of discipline which will stand them in good stead.
Time Out: Try to have time out when your child gets very anxious or very angry. Don’t give in to unreasonable demands to get yourself out of demanding situations. Time out should be the clue to have a mature discussion.
Views by Parul Johar.
Parul is a Counselling Psychologist who specializes in assessment and counselling for children and adolescents on issues such as depression, anxiety, bullying, stress, learning or academic difficulties, behavioral issues, self-esteem, coping with change and life adjustments. She is experienced in psychoeducational assessments and working with children or adolescents with neurodevelopmental disorders including Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), Learning Disorders and Intellectual Disabilities.